There are a lot of bucket lists already out there for first time pregnant moms – but I found many of them overwhelming. Looking back, here are the simplest things I wish I would’ve done more of.
- Do all the adult things: There are two kinds of pregnant: The glorious, glowing kind and the holy-shit-I’m-a-hot-mess kind. I always felt like I more closely aligned with the latter, as I was hit with fatigue that turned me into a couch potato. Therefore, outings rarely appealed to me. My poor husband would suggest simple dates to the movie theatre and I would shrug it off in favor of the comforts of staying in. But looking back, I do wish I would’ve drank a little coffee and moved my ass off the couch a bit more. Now, leaving the house is an errand requiring 16 pairs of hands.
- Splurge at the spa: I never felt like I deserved spa days. It’s a luxurious expense and doesn’t fall under “necessities” in the budget. I finally caved and got a prenatal massage at 39 weeks and went into labor a few days later. Boy, do I wish I would’ve prioritized self-love more during my pregnancy. Now, I’m lucky if I can find time to shower long enough to shave my legs.
- Have fun with the bump: Most days, especially in the third trimester, I did not feel very photogenic. I took plenty of photos, but I didn’t do a professional shoot or a time-lapse project. Looking back, I wish I would’ve gotten creative with the bumpdates and better documented the journey in all its ups and downs. It’s true – as anxious as I was for pregnancy to end, I now miss my bump.
- Focus less on the nursery and more on the house: Oh, Pinterest. There I was spending hours prepping a room that he currently only uses to piss and shit all over. Next time, I will focus more on prepping each room in the house as opposed to one room. The reality is, baby takes over the whole house.
- Join baby wearing groups: I just picked one that seemed popular and called it a day, just like every other item on my baby registry. While the pick and choose approach works with most things in the land of never-ending baby gear, it doesn’t fly with baby wearing. There are so many to choose from, and all have pros and cons. Baby wearing isn’t a thing you check off a list; it is a lifestyle for you and baby.