If you could be completely honest with no regrets, what would you say and to whom?
This question doesn’t really do much for me. I don’t have a filter, and so I almost always say what is on my mind anyway. That said, this concept of honesty does ignite some thoughts. I majored in journalism and quickly learned the code of ethics, which includes the responsibility to seek truth. Truth is not the same as honesty. You can be honest but be far from the truth. Truth is reality. Honesty is just a quality we possess intending to be truthful.
Remembering this is important, and I try to apply it to my life. Being honest with ourselves and with others doesn’t give us any sort of guarantee like we think it does. When we are being honest, we tend to emphasize it as if it somehow makes what we are saying superior. Honesty doesn’t solidify the experiences or opinions we have. It just means we whole-heartedly believe in what we are sharing. It’s still a good thing; it’s just not everything.
When we believe so stubbornly in our realities that we leave no room for other perspectives or, better yet, facts, then we become rigid and closed-minded. You can honestly believe something, but with full recognition that this alone won’t lead to truth. We must also be open, observant, engaged, and willing to listen to the things that we don’t always agree with.
Honestly, in the world we live in today where everyone has an opinion on everything, I wish there was greater focus on truth. When we are honest, we place value on our own thoughts and experiences. When we are truthful, we place value on the reality that our thoughts and experiences are just one part of a much bigger picture.
Have honest conversations, absolutely. Better yet, be truthful.