pregnancy and parenthood

We aren’t actually in control until we surrender it

I was largely focused on gaining control during my first pregnancy. I wanted control of my body, my labor, my baby. I was probably over-compensating for having zero experience with children prior to getting pregnant, so I found comfort in this idea of becoming an "expert" with the nine months I had before my big… Continue reading We aren’t actually in control until we surrender it

pregnancy and parenthood

The things I rushed are the things I want to rewind

It's weird. The very things I wanted to fast forward through with my first born I already want to savor with my second.  Bringing home a newborn was such unfamiliar territory the first time; it was all too easy to anticipate the milestones – awaiting for the next best thing that he could master. I… Continue reading The things I rushed are the things I want to rewind

Love and Marriage · pregnancy and parenthood

Why we should stop helping our husbands

Fifteen months since becoming parents, and I still turn to one of the first pieces of advice I received before going into labor.  "When you bring your baby home, create a sacred space between you and your husband where you both have equal opportunity to find your way as parents. Be cautious of visitors coming… Continue reading Why we should stop helping our husbands