Love and Marriage · pregnancy and parenthood

Why we should stop helping our husbands

Fifteen months since becoming parents, and I still turn to one of the first pieces of advice I received before going into labor.  "When you bring your baby home, create a sacred space between you and your husband where you both have equal opportunity to find your way as parents. Be cautious of visitors coming… Continue reading Why we should stop helping our husbands

Love and Marriage

What I’ve learned in three years of marriage

Three years - that's it? As we looked at our approaching anniversary date, we thought this year's celebration would be a higher number. Having a kid definitely catalyzes your relationship; It feels like we've been tied together far longer, but I suppose this feeling isn't a bad one. We're used to marriage by now. We have graduated the honeymoon… Continue reading What I’ve learned in three years of marriage

Love and Marriage · pregnancy and parenthood

How happiness changes as I get older

In between slicing mangoes and toasting waffles - while making sure our collie isn't stealing our labradoodle's food like he always tries when I'm looking away -  I overhear on the morning news that it's International Happiness Day!  My mind races to so many different thoughts on happiness. My baby boy is starting to whine… Continue reading How happiness changes as I get older

Love and Marriage · pregnancy and parenthood

The one warning that we should be giving to expectant mothers

Thanks to Facebook's "On This Day," feature, I saw a blog I had written on this day one year ago countering all the negative warnings that people innocently give to expectant mothers, as if we are doomed for a life of "never agains."  These innocent warnings are intensified with comments of how much we stand to lose… Continue reading The one warning that we should be giving to expectant mothers

Love and Marriage · military life · pregnancy and parenthood

A letter to our military child

When we got pregnant, my first thought was a blur of joy and shock. My second thought was to count through the nine months it would take to grow you to see if daddy would be home for your birth.  If we were staying in Hawaii, he would have deployed for a fourth time. Lucky us, we had… Continue reading A letter to our military child

Love and Marriage · pregnancy and parenthood

Finding self-love as a mother

I had a weird request for my approaching 27th birthday. I asked my husband to take photos of me. Just me.  Recently, a series of harmless events happened that provoked some reflection. We received our 2016 family yearbook, I started documenting more videos for the "one second of every day" app, and I have three piles of dressy… Continue reading Finding self-love as a mother

Love and Marriage · pregnancy and parenthood · Uncategorized

2017: the year of sitting still

This is the first resolution that I'm wishing for a lesser year. And I mean that in the best way.  When I think about the past five years, they have all been centered around adding something major to my life. 2013 was the year I chased my dreams in Hawaii and launched my career. 2014 was the… Continue reading 2017: the year of sitting still

Love and Marriage · National Blog Posting Month · pregnancy and parenthood

A reason to stop chasing dreams

*Photo By LuLuEdward Photo* I half-completed this daily writing challenge for November, but I have benefitted tremendously from what I did complete. I may not have gotten words out every day, but my goal was not so much meeting deadlines as it was developing my writing.  Truthfully, before becoming a mother, I would have scoffed at… Continue reading A reason to stop chasing dreams

Love and Marriage · National Blog Posting Month

The art of marriage and parenting

The writing prompt today is, "What's the dumbest thing you and your partner have ever fought about?" When I posed this question to my husband, his response was "It's always my fault."  Me: That did not answer the question. What are you talking about? Him: I don't know **Returns to video games** But, I don't know… Continue reading The art of marriage and parenting

Love and Marriage · pregnancy and parenthood

Parenthood = fun?

When it comes to having kids, we usually hear a whole string of warnings that paint a bleak picture. "Oh, but don't you want to travel more first?" "You'll never sleep again!" "Don't lose yourself." "Make sure you get that babysitter so your marriage doesn't fall apart!"  Clearly these cautionary pieces of advice weren't effective in stopping me from… Continue reading Parenthood = fun?