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A re-do of the fourth trimester

By far, the hardest part of becoming a mother with my first born was bringing him home. My recovery was long and difficult. My expectations of what having a new baby would be like and what it was actually like couldn't have been further apart. And my marriage was ill prepared for how to adjust… Continue reading A re-do of the fourth trimester

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I failed last year’s resolution and uncovered something better

I'm proud that I followed through with many of my resolutions for 2017 – well, most of them. My biggest goal was to minimize the clutter in my life, which has transformed our home. It has helped me cut down on wants vs. needs, find a style that I actually like – both in my… Continue reading I failed last year’s resolution and uncovered something better

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The one time in motherhood I close my door

When it comes to motherhood, I'm an open book (hence this blog). And I'm no different in pregnancy. Even though this is my second go around, I've maintained the classic weekly bumpdates on Facebook just as devoutly as I did the first time around. I love sharing my journey and swapping experiences with others. Until… Continue reading The one time in motherhood I close my door

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Our second birth, a better focus

We are weeks away from the birth of our second born, and while much of this pregnancy has brought back familiar feelings and preparations, the differences are valuable. It definitely helps being past the first-time learning curve. It has humbled me and given me patience and confidence in a way that I didn't have going into… Continue reading Our second birth, a better focus

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What moms can learn from dads

Several blogs and articles recently swept my newsfeed about how studies show that even in today's attempted egalitarian households, moms are the ones taking the brunt at home.  "... when Saturday arrives, new research shows men are often on the couch while women are the ones doing housework with a 'leisure time' discrepancy of more… Continue reading What moms can learn from dads

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The one birth affirmation that is excluding women

As the countdown to my next childbirth draws near, I've been thinking, asking, talking, and listening on all things labor and delivery. I'm blessed to have a large support network of mothers in this community who have such varying experiences and wisdom, in addition to a well-rounded care team of midwives and my doula. I've… Continue reading The one birth affirmation that is excluding women

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To the mom worried about losing your identity …

I read another blog recently that clicked with me. This woman talked about how her identity as a person didn't diminish when she became a mother, even though she admitted that motherhood was all-consuming. Instead, she proposed that motherhood was something that encouraged her to find more of herself.  I love that. Motherhood gets a… Continue reading To the mom worried about losing your identity …

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Giving new mothers a blank slate

Motherhood is loud. Very loud. Both from within ourselves and in our every day surroundings. It's a beautiful chaos that we learn to love. Even though I gave birth to my son well over a year ago and have grown used to this beautiful chaos, I catch myself in recurring conversations with fellow new moms… Continue reading Giving new mothers a blank slate

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The real reason second-time moms “care less”

There is a hilarious video circulating the Internet of a mom showcasing the differences in how she prepared for the birth of her first child vs. how she prepares with littles already running around. It pokes fun of the contrast in the glamor that we create around first-time pregnancies – and how this glamor abruptly… Continue reading The real reason second-time moms “care less”