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Our second birth – sweet redemption

It's only day two postpartum as I write this, and I fear I will forget the details of our daughter's birth if I wait any longer. It came and went faster than I could keep up with – completely opposite of our first experience! This entire pregnancy had been fast, too, but I was sure… Continue reading Our second birth – sweet redemption

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The one birth affirmation that is excluding women

As the countdown to my next childbirth draws near, I've been thinking, asking, talking, and listening on all things labor and delivery. I'm blessed to have a large support network of mothers in this community who have such varying experiences and wisdom, in addition to a well-rounded care team of midwives and my doula. I've… Continue reading The one birth affirmation that is excluding women

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I was hoping for a girl, and that says nothing about the kind of parent I am

"Are you hoping for a girl this time?" This was a popular question that followed our second pregnancy announcement since we have had the overwhelming joy of experiencing a boy our first go-around. I always felt a tad awkward answering this because there's a bit of shame associated with admitting that you may have a… Continue reading I was hoping for a girl, and that says nothing about the kind of parent I am

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Five things I just don’t care about this pregnancy

This idea that you can have too many baby clothes.  Only have a few newborn sizes, and then buy up - but not too much. I tried to abide by this cautionary advice last time. This time, I catch myself checking the baby clothes sections every chance I get. There's something so sentimental about baby clothes.… Continue reading Five things I just don’t care about this pregnancy

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When motherhood is re-born

I remember thinking that moms of multiples must have it all figured out. I envied their wisdom and experience and couldn't wait to overcome that initial learning curve marked by being a first-time mom.  But here I am, mustering what little energy I have to spare to get through the first trimester all over again, with as… Continue reading When motherhood is re-born

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The one warning that we should be giving to expectant mothers

Thanks to Facebook's "On This Day," feature, I saw a blog I had written on this day one year ago countering all the negative warnings that people innocently give to expectant mothers, as if we are doomed for a life of "never agains."  These innocent warnings are intensified with comments of how much we stand to lose… Continue reading The one warning that we should be giving to expectant mothers

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The one-liner that I vow to stop saying to expectant mothers

Before crossing from expectant mother to new mother, I was busy working on my birth plan. Yet, many mamas often told me some form of "Forget your birth plan. Honey, you can't plan your labor. You'll just be upset when things don't go according to plan."  I understood that. But I also didn't find that to… Continue reading The one-liner that I vow to stop saying to expectant mothers

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Moms: we are contradicting ourselves

Moms, we need each other. We need someone who understands what it is like to live on cold coffee and rows of oreos during breastfeeding binges. We need that person who we can text at 3 a.m. to keep us going through those late-night feedings, and who totally understands what we mean when we call… Continue reading Moms: we are contradicting ourselves